拜见岳父大人

姓名奇怪的男护士第一次上门拜见未来岳父母，不料从机场开始就踏上倒霉之旅，先是航空公司将他装有求婚戒指的行李搞丢了，接着身上的衣服又被别人的婴儿吐奶搞脏了，他灰头土脸地跟随女友回家，没想到未来岳父却是伪装成园艺师的前中情局反间谍测谎师。

在思想传统又保守的岳父严历的双目审视之下，费尽心思欲博得岳父好感的男护士却做出一系列失控行为，导致丑态百出，连岳父的宠物猫似乎也在与他作对，慌乱中，他为了这只猫差点烧了岳父的别墅、几乎毁了女友妹妹的婚礼，又被岳父发现了他的谎言，自觉求婚无望的他准备坐飞机逃离，却因行李问题大闹机舱而被警察带走，没想到审讯他的人又变成了岳父。

这是2000年美国好莱坞的喜剧电影《门当父不对》（英文名Meet the Parents, 也译作拜见岳父大人）中的主要情节。

这是一部喜剧片，但同时也是一部人生哲理片，让人们在哈哈大笑之余思考一些生活的真相和处世之道，也给即将成为上门女婿的男同胞们一些启发。

职业无分贵贱，世人应该尊重他人的选择。

好莱坞喜剧演员本.斯蒂勒饰演的男主角格雷德·佛克（Gaylord Focker，让人很容易误会成Gay Fucker，这两个词的意思你懂得）的职业是护士，当他向女友全家人说出他的职业时，所有人都是一幅惊诧又不可思议的表情。

女友家人的反应揭示了社会上普遍存在的偏见，人们都认为医生令人尊崇而护士则低人一等，男护士尤甚被人看不起，常被视作无能的表现而投以异样的眼光，片中的格雷曾以优异的成绩通过医生资格考试、但他还是遵从自己的内心选择当了护士，影片以这样的方式回击了世俗的偏见，告知世人职业无分贵贱，任何职业都应该得到世人的尊重，人们有权进行自我选择。

以前医院的护士职位全由女性承担，近年来，在国内的医院里也出现一些可喜的变化，男护士的身影越来越多了，尤其是在重症监护病房。

记得前几年婆婆刚做完癌症手术，在ICU期间一直是一位男护士来做护理，感觉他处理紧急情况时非常沉稳、胆大又耐心细致，大大缓解了我当时的紧张不安的情绪。

男护士能被世人广泛接受正体现了社会的包容与进步。

儿女长大，父母们要学会放手、尊重他们的选择一向以饰演性格鲜明的黑帮人物而著称的罗伯特·德尼罗在本片中饰演了一位性格古板固执的未来岳父，他神情冷漠、喜怒不形于色，曾经任职CIA的经历让他充满了谨慎态度与怀疑一切之心，他在家中到处装满了监控摄像镜头，连厕所也不放过。

他对女儿的珍爱与不舍之情让他将所有向女儿求婚的毛头小伙视作敌人，想方设法地打击他们的热情，意图让他们知难而退。

女友的妹夫是个医生，他很幸运地通过了岳父的考验，迎来了即将举行的婚礼，但格雷德这位男护士却从见面的第一眼开始就让岳父嫌弃，古怪的姓名、邋遢的衣着、不当的礼物、冒失的言谈、低贱的职业，无一不表现出格雷是一位屌丝，虽然女儿说格雷是她的真爱，但岳父的心中已认定格雷全然配不上他美丽优雅的女儿，他巧妙地用家中的测谎仪对格雷进行试探，还一再警告格雷，让他不得撒谎、不得与女儿发生婚前性行为。

可怜的格雷虽然步步谨慎并刻意讨好岳父大人，但高压与紧张感令他的行为一错再错，他不得不一次次撒谎试图弥补自己的错漏百出，效果却适得其反，不仅让岳父更加误会，还让岳父发现了他在说谎。

面对如此难以对付的岳父，格雷一败涂地，他自认不是对手，觉得向女友求婚无望只能知难而退，但未来岳母的一句话却让这位固执的岳父看清了事实真相，她对他说：你从来没觉得有人配得上你的女儿。

这句话让岳父重新思考自己的动机与行为，他终于明白女儿已经长大成人，当父亲的要学会放手，只有尊重女儿的选择才能让女儿走上幸福的人生。

他放下成见，看到了格雷内心的质朴与善良，主动去机场将未来女婿追回，也不再干涉子女的行为。

都说“女儿是父亲前世的情人”，女儿大了，做父亲的通常会舍不得将自己养育了二十多年的珍宝交给另一位陌生男人，大多以挑剔的眼光来看待胆敢上门将女儿带走的毛头小伙。

但孩子大了终要离家去过自己的人生，女儿不是依附于父母的附属品，只有当父亲的学会放下，才能让女儿成长为一个独立的人。

本部影片最精彩之处是德尼罗与斯蒂勒两位主演之间迸发出的紧张与矛盾感。

德尼罗扮演的岳父严肃中带有一丝幽默，他具有非凡的掌控能力，轻而易举地将格雷玩弄于股掌之中，而斯蒂勒则将初次上门的毛脚女婿那种紧张不安、手足无措的神情演得惟妙惟肖，让人有很强的代入感，两人都演绎得十分传神。

影片中还有一只十分可爱的长毛猫不时串场，它既是破坏一切的始作俑者，又是最后传达爱意的天使，这只漂亮、惹人喜爱的猫咪更加剧了影片的喜剧效果，让人难以忘却。

这是一部轻松愉快、很值得一看的好片。

以前小的时候总在家属大院里的电影院看电影，所以这是我小学第一次和爸爸在带空调的电影院看的电影，影片大部分内容已经记不清了，不过岳父的爱猫情结却影响我至深，猫是这个世界上最难屈服的宠物，比起顺服甚至愚忠的狗，猫更显灵性。

所以我现在只养猫了。

说起养猫，据说养狗的都是缺爱，养猫的都是爱过甚无处发泄，所以养猫的，赶紧找个伴吧。

The comic movie “Meet the Parents” is also a thought-provoking one. Instead of just keeping laughing and laughing, I think more about the main characters (Greg and Jack), prejudice, bias, the relations between children and parents, etc. Without a doubt, the comedy tries to tell us something serious in an easy way. 1. About PlotThis movie tells us a dramatic story of a couple of lovers and a visiting to the woman’s parents’ house in a humorous tone. The man whose name is Gaylord Greg Focker fell in love with the woman Pam Byrnes and he made up his mind to marry her. By listening to Pam and her sister’s phone call unintentionally, Greg realized that he should ask for her parents’ (especially her father’s) permission if he wants to marry her. So he prepared a lot for the visiting to her parents’ house. However, Rome was not built in one day. Greg lost his parking which contained the rings for the propose to Pam during the flight to Pam’s parents’ home which led to the following series of bad consequences. It was clear that Pam’s father Jack didn’t like Greg at all. Greg’s profession is nurse, which lead to Jack’s prejudice; Greg did not like cats, which make Jack unhappy because he was fond of them; Jack even suspected that Greg took drugs just because he said something like ‘puff the magic dragon’ carelessly.Fortunately, to meet viewers’ expectation, the film has a happy ending. At the end of the film, when Greg finally gave up and decided to leave, Pam’s father Jack was convinced and changed his attitude towards the lover of his daughter. Greg came to the family again and make the offer of marriage to Pam successfully. 2. About Gaylord Greg FockerI share the same opinion with most of audiences that I like Greg very much. Although he seems to be a little bit stupid and slow in response, he is a truly reliable young guy as a husband as well as a son-in-law. This conclusion can be drawn from the scene in the movie that when Pam’s father made him promise to obey the rules so that he could be maintained in the trust circle, he just kept it in mind and followed it carefully. What is the most important thing is that he loves Pam deeply, for he sacrificed a lot to try to gain appreciation from his future father-in-law. For instance, he got along as well as possible with the cat which he used to hate and received Jack’s polygraph test tamely (although it is unreasonable and impolite). Jack was very rude to Greg which we can observe from Jack’s behavior, like, he even did not allow Jack to use the toilet bowl. But Jack didn’t complain a word about these things because of his true love to Pam. What a frank and lovely man he is!3. About Jack ByrnesBesides Greg, I also have affection on the other main character Jack, the father of Pam. It is true that he is very rigid when judging his daughter’s boyfriend. However, I can tell that these were all resulted from his endless love towards his daughter. He fully prepared for a surprise for another daughter Deborah Byrnes’s wedding ceremony and cared a lot for Pam’s future life. He is like a mirror which reflects the depth of fathers’ love in the whole world. Jack also makes me think of my own father Simon who loves me very much. I am sure when I bring my boyfriend home one day in the future, he must be very picky too. Thinking about my father, I consider Jack a good father. I even feel pity for Jack for he would have to let his sweet daughter live with others in the future.4. About Prejudice and BiasIn the movie, I am deeply impressed by the prejudice and bias in U.S. The social classes are divided clearly in U.S., which are the upper classes, the middle classes and the lower classes. The higher-class people have a prejudice against the lower-class people, which can be seen in many American films, novels and news reports. The only thing I dislike in the comedy is the obvious prejudice Jack showed to Greg. He thought that Greg was not a successful and industrious man because he was only a nurse; he invited Pam’s ex Kevin Rawley to home deliberately to make Jack embarrassed; he even investigated Jack’s background through CIA. I feel very sorry for this kind of bias which commonly exists all over the world, not only in China. I just wonder that why a person who earn money to make a living is prejudiced against just because his/her occupation is not ‘good’ enough ?5. About Children and ParentsWhen talking about my opinion about the relationship between parents and their children, I’d like to talk about more my own experience and ideas. When I was living together with my parents, I always complain that they nearly controlled every aspect of my life and their rules almost extended to every corner of my own personal affairs. I was impatient about their suggestions or comments on my behaviors. However, as time goes by, as I grew up and apart my parents to attend the university, I miss them so much, even their strong controlling and rules. It is sort of weird, isn’t it? I finally know that it was a kind of true happiness when you have someone be around with you and care about you. So it is the love that combines our parents and us together firmly. Whatever they do and say is aimed to make us happy. Keep this in mind and cherish the time you are spending with your parents instead of regretting after losing them.

都说婆媳关系难处，看了这部电影之后，你会觉得丈婿之间也并不总是相安无事的，弄不好还会引发一场不一样的双雄对峙。

Greg想向女友Pam求婚，却被告知先要过了父母这一关，特别是她的父亲。

见到之后，他发现这位未来的岳父并不是那么好相处的，他对他的职业——男护士不满，对他精心准备的礼物没有兴趣，对他的言行都表现出苛刻和挑剔。

Greg想方设法想要取悦他，结果事情却越来越糟，以致于最后到了不可收拾的地步。

当然，最后还是真情比天大，Pam的父母终于接受了Greg，一家人其乐融融，一起奔向幸福的明天。

抱歉，最后这句是我扯淡呢。

其实片中为续集留了扣子，双方父母还要见面呢。

猪猪看过之后说这片子很一般，怀疑我选片的能力。

我倒觉得，对于这样一部轻松的家庭喜剧。

情节流畅，节奏明快，细节上没有大毛病，能做到不虎头蛇尾，这就足够了。

哪能要求所有的电影都跟《肖申克的救赎》一样经典？

这类片子共同的特点就是小麻烦不断，大毛病没有，中间不管怎么误会和伤心，最后都会是皆大欢喜的结局。

这是一种套路，不过要把套路拍好也不容易，看看国产的同类型电影就知道了。

这里面要有足够给主人公造成困扰却又不会伤筋动骨的问题，要有不断地积累却又不会达到压垮骆驼程度的麻烦。

本片在这方面做得很好，虽然没有爆笑的情节，但是很多桥段和细节都挺耐人寻味的，就像那些经典的冷笑话一样，不会让你笑破肚子，但是每次一想起来都想笑。

影片还捎带脚地讽刺了美国的航空公司。

主人公Greg的麻烦是由航空公司弄丢了他的行李引发的，最后他想要离开伤心地时，也是航空公司的工作人员使他的情绪终于失控，情节也由此推向高潮，可以说安排得十分巧妙。

经过本片，我开始喜欢本·斯蒂勒了。

原来没怎么看过他的片子，只是感觉这个小个子男人眼神很犀利。

看过本片，觉得他挺可爱，跟亚当·桑德勒走的路线差不多，但是更内敛一些。

没想到这种扯淡是真的这要搁我身上 我早吓跑了谁让丫本`太背了呢总体说来 剧情挺好 一环一环的``不对 我怎么评价这个了呢```怪了```其实我是CIA

真的是很好玩地一部片子，比我预想的要好。

格雷格陪女友白梅回家拜见岳父。

老岳父杰克是中情局特工，已经服役了32年了，此时刚刚退休。

任何人想要过杰克的法眼，都少不了一阵测试。

先是格雷格的名字问题，格雷格的姓名有同性恋·性交者的意思，从一开始就没能赢得杰克的喜爱。

格雷格极力讨好未来的老丈人，可是却吃力不讨好。

比如格雷格发现客厅中间有一个非常漂亮的瓶子，一阵好称赞，谁知那是杰克母亲的骨灰瓶，又是尴尬又是无语。

格雷格本想和白梅住在一个房间，被老练的杰克给搅和了。

杰克安排格雷格住地下室，和猫咪黑仔一起。

那个马桶是有问题的，只能用不能冲，格雷格不小心冲了。

白梅的妹妹黛比就要准备结婚了，第二天家里旁边的草地上都是大粪，一阵无语。

杰克这也能忍。

格雷格的衣服箱子没到，只得借用白梅弟弟的衣服，杰克在衣服里发现了抽大麻用的烟斗，不过格雷格死不承认。

一是他不知道怎么一回事，二是这是白梅弟弟的，也不是他的。

在白梅前男友家里打水球，一家人打得不亦乐乎，格雷格怎么看也像是多余的。

为了证明自己，他来了一个大力扣杀，一下子给黛比打地鼻青脸肿还出血。

格雷格要把黑仔找回来，一不小心把房子给点着了，准备的婚礼现场毁于一旦。

黑仔确实找不到了，杰克很着急。

格雷格主动请缨，为了讨岳父欢喜，他在宠物店找了个类似的小猫，还把尾巴涂成了黑色。

结果晚上大家回去，家里被假黑仔霍霍乱了套。

杰克把格雷格赶走。

白梅表白了自己的心意，杰克也意识到自己有点过火，于是把格雷格从机场拦了下来。

两人终于得到了杰克的祝福在一起。

罗伯特德尼罗竟然还有喜剧天赋，我还真是没想到，再加上对喜剧片驾轻就熟的斯蒂勒，黄金搭档。

这时候觉得女主角是谁都不重要了。

相比较中国版的，你会觉得衔接上面有点问题，怎么说呢，感觉还是许绍雄和徐铮的不搭，合拍片要拍好不是说有个好剧本就行的。

能把完全不搭的角色定位同样演绎的为人所认可，我觉得就是个奇迹。

剧情的夸张掩盖不了主演们的演技就行了。

PS以后碰到岳父还不知道怎么办呢，哈哈

可以放松自己的一部电影喜欢戏剧的朋友应该去看下不过要连贯的看他的笑料虽然有点"冷"的不过还是满好笑的起码我觉得不错不过感觉这个和小时候看的<拜见岳父大人>不太一样啊以前那个好像还有情节说他们母女两人后来同时怀孕了的也是超级好笑的很想重温一下哈

1,u r acting so weird2,a fool in love3,win them over赢取芳心4，be psyched about5，take it easy on the sarcasm6，被调到部门7，be back in a jiff8 unleaded 无铅的9，it's a work in progress10，can u milk me！

11，grow to love u@@@@12，现实主义者realistpractical@@@@@@12,i shit u not13,@@@@@prematial relations 婚前性行为14，@@@under my roof15，Martho Focker16，NU what r u afraid of，u have nothing to hide17，NU u will be suprised how accurate they are18，NU that's a lot to take in慢慢消化19.she is phat！

neatvery practical 20， houseowner21 what line of work are u in？

22，follow ur father's footsteps23， trunks泳裤24，supervisor 主管my supervisor is on a breakhaving a rest25， i am in a time situation26，I am a very accepting peron

看到就满脸是“笑料”的Ben Stiller（看过他的Duplex/双层公寓）饰演男主角 Gaylord/Greg Focker，搞笑天分发挥的淋漓尽致； Robert De Niro（出租车司机、美国往事、Ronin/浪人[和让·雷诺Jean Reno和演]以及还没看过的《教父》）饰演名为花匠却实则刚刚退休的CIA岳父，他的转变，才给了他的女儿幸福，也给了他的老婆的。

哦也。

第二部又有Dustin Hoffman（Rain Man/雨人）和Barbra Streisand的出演，一对在孩子教育上、生活方式上和Jack Byrnes有着截然不同的观念和主张的夫妇。

再加上一个Ass--Hole的小baby，使得PART II比第一部精彩很多。

看了都会很开心大。

而且又都是喜欢的演员。

棒。